Tuesday, 3 February 2015

The joys of Motherhood

For those who have been, are and going there, they would have the best experience in relating what motherhood means to them, naturally.
As we watch our little one grow and achieve his milestones, from the first time he rolled, sat up, crawled and started walking we feel nothing less than pride, excitement and extreme joy as he beams so delightfully at his accomplishments.
It's a maternal instinct that really comes naturally where a mum 'just knows'. She becomes a 'mother hen' to her 'chicks' constantly on the look out for their safety and keeping them in check, protecting them under her feathers.
A child can do no wrong in their mother's eyes, no matter how far they attempt to push the boundaries, sometimes.

As they grow through their different stages, dropping/throwing food on the floor, displaying tantrums in public, wanting things they can't have....it certainly gets more challenging and as a mum you find yourself saying 'no', 'no' until you seem like a broken record player...
For some of it, it's just natural behaviour as they get exposed to new things around them. Sometimes, though, we have to turn on the 'police mum' mode where we have no choice but to nip it in the bud there and then.
Then, when you watch them fall asleep at night, they are just the most precious angels that could ever touch your heart. For most, a child just brings about so much love that everyday is just a blessing to have them in one's life. They bring new meaning to life when they're around you.
Patience, love, tolerance, a calm tone and understanding are key ingredients to be able to nurture your child in a loving and stable environment.
Children are a blessing and a beautiful gift from God.


A Mother's Love

A Mother's love is something
that no on can explain,
It is made of deep devotion
and of sacrifice and pain,
It is endless and unselfish
and enduring come what may

For nothing can destroy it
or take that love away . . .
It is patient and forgiving
when all others are forsaking,
And it never fails or falters
even though the heart is breaking . . .
It believes beyond believing

when the world around condemns,
And it glows with all the beauty
of the rarest, brightest gems . . .
It is far beyond defining,
it defies all explanation,
And it still remains a secret
like the mysteries of creation . . . 
A many splendored miracle
man cannot understand
And another wondrous evidence
of God's tender guiding hand.



Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.


Sunday, 15 September 2013

Preparing for D-Day

It's a day millions of women have gone through from the world over, and each with their own experience. Some with great challenges, some simply making it seem like "child's play".
Off course it is a tradition to follow old wives tales and what was done in the granny's day and their days before that...which obviously worked back in the day and must still work if we turned out more than just alright. Today there are just so many books and websites with what you should eat, what you should avoid eating, all the dos and don'ts, that make you wonder how our parents and grandparents made it through without it.
It's almost like taking a course in parenting and it practically is as one is about to embark on one of the biggest life changing moments in ones life.
For sure it's a moment that just comes naturally as with any female specie in the animal kingdom, from nesting and preparing for delivery and maternal instinct and bonding that's just innate. As if the great moment is not enough, there's all these choices of strollers, travel systems, cribs, and checking out all the safety recommendations and customer reviews to make sure you get the best and reliable baby gear. That's another whole story on it's own!

Nine months, three quarters of a year, just over 39 weeks, almost 274 days is a long time and carrying a life is truly one of the most special times in a woman's life, and the biggest joy and proud moment most certainly comes thereafter. No matter what you do and how ready you think you are, it actually is so life changing that you will only know just how ready you are when the day arrives. It dawns upon you that your life will never be the same, there will be a little person needing you and demanding your time 24/7...and suddenly you want to rush and do everything before the day arrives, everything you've left incomplete .... almost sounds a bit selfish...
Then you feel those hiccups resonating in your belly almost to remind you of the time you have left till he/she makes their début, and you realise just how awesome life is and will be...and what a blessing it is in one's life.




                                                        (For our little angel)


( NIV ) John 16:21 A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world.






Wednesday, 19 June 2013

Thank you Smart phone, for social etiquette !!

Hasn't going out for dinner changed these days? If you're going out with one person or two people there's always bound to be way more guests there. It's almost 100% that each of those persons have a mobile phone and are in contact with somebody, just to let them know where they are. Even if you have a sit down home family meal, it's a given someone's getting a text or notification from Facebook, or an email...and all of a sudden it's so urgent to attend to it, in turn being rude to your family that obviously would have no qualms about it because they're getting texts too.

It's everywhere...even at a doctors clinic where a nurse has to leave the consulting doctor to take her call to say she's at work!! Is this what society has come to? We don't need to sit down with our family for dinner anymore...we can just Whatsapp them to pass the rice! You can have a deep conversation with someone and that personal moment has has gone when interrupted by a phone, with a text stating you could be a winner with Cell C!! And that's not all...it's a platform for proposals, first baby pics, break-ups (gone are the post-it days ), make-ups and everything you need to know about anybody.

I used to find it quite amusing but now I think people have forgotten their social etiquette around their families and friends. No matter where you go, people are so addicted to their phones, it really makes you wonder how on earth did we go without it all these years...all these urgent text messages and emails and Facebook comments that we have to put our forks down for. As if it's not bad enough that adults are doing it, can you blame kids who follow their parents example?

One must be really lucky to have the total undivided attention of that person you go out with for an "intimate" meal, because before you can even sit down at that exclusive restaurant, the whole world and their neighbour already know you're there...SURPRISE!!

Try to give people your full attention, The worlds not going to end if you switch your phone off and miss that Facebook picture you've been tagged in.
Let's try to be more human and give people the respect they deserve when in our company.


Be kind, humble and speak with love :)

Thursday, 14 March 2013

AS ..I DO...

It's the day every girl dreams of, donning her white fairytale wedding gown, walking down the aisle with her father, and marrying her prince charming.

You seem to plan a for a lifetime for when that time actually comes, until the moment really happens do you realise how quickly it all does happen, almost in a blink of an eye and in a few hours that day passes on, but the memories....they become a lasting treasure.
It's a life changing time for anyone, and most certainly a positive and exciting one, giving up singlehood and adjusting to that of marriage life where "I" becomes "WE" and "ME" becomes "US".

It seems like no big deal and all a breeze (praying that it all does work out as close to plan as possible) even though there might be the slightest hiccup that nobody else picks out barring the bride herself, and maybe the groom if he's been keeping with the programme the months leading up to the big day. As long as there are no dress faux pas, the officiant has arrived, and most importantly your groom is present, you can look forward to a smooth start.



It's for sure meant to be one of the happiest day of any girls life.
You brace yourself ready to walk down what seems almost a mile long aisle, but the minute your eyes meet it just all falls into place, as you pass familiar smiling faces and eventually reach the altar....and the new journey begins.


May love abide in your heart, thoughts and deeds always.

Tuesday, 11 December 2012

A time of love and joy...

Another year drawing to an end...

It's truly amazing how time does fly, and how each day just goes by ever so quickly...
The whole year is a rush of work and studies, deadlines...and then come the end of year, the unwinding starts, holidays are planned,end of year Christmas parties, Christmas holidays bring families together, and resolutions are made for the New Year, most especially for the over indulgence of that 'stuffed turkey'!!

Christmas, the time of giving (more generously), charity, love, world peace (we hope and pray), and most importantly the significance that brings people the world all over together gathering in churches to celebrate the birth of Jesus.
It's a joyous time for everyone, and there are selfless people in the world who will go all out to make it a special time for those unfortunate.
The greatest gift of Christmas, is the priceless moments of being with family and those dear to you, and being at home...and appreciating what you have.

Life can be so unpredictable that we have no idea what tomorrow will hold for us, or how it can change so many dimensions in our life, in the most wonderful and amazing way. We're so busy planning our life sometimes that we don't make accommodation for the unexpected....and when the unexpected does happen, it's a true test of our ability to adjust and make changes.

As you set out for preparations for this time of year, may you be an inspiration to others in giving, loving and spreading joy and cheer to all those around you, and making a difference in someone's life.


 

May the spirit of Christmas bring loved ones together to know and feel the blessings of forgiveness, humility and generosity, and the power of having faith and believing that any dream and change is possible if we allow and open our hearts to do so...
















Monday, 3 September 2012

ROOM FOR ONE ...



"I'm never getting married" is a line that many young people at one time in their lives are familiar with. There are some who actually follow through with it for the rest of their lives and are quite content too. There are others who obviously change their minds during the course of their life, and are constantly on the look out for the right or perfect person.
It has become quite the culture for couples to cohabit pre-marriage or even just to have a life partner, and this seems to work amongst many individuals. With a change in acceptable norms of society today it seems that as long as couples are happy ( hopefully for all the right reasons), there lies no qualms about it.
So much for looking for the so called 'right' or 'perfect' person when we know that they just don't exist. It is merely loving the imperfect person perfectly, and the love that emanates between the two that makes everything about that relationship so right and perfect, and most of all one that lasts.

It is not easy to be able to 'share' yourself with someone as time goes by, as one becomes so set in their individual routine of life, and they have to accommodate someone else who 'destabilises' what seems a perfect balance. We wonder whether that once comfortable single life would mean the end to those days when you just wake up in the mornings and plan to be spontaneous with your whole day, or just simply decide to lie in for the morning and maybe afternoon, or just stay in your PJ's for the whole day, just because you can.
Well seemingly and hopefeully some of that doesn't have to change...only if you've drawn up a contract in advance with the specifications!
All in all, life wouldn't be all that fun if it was just a 'room for one'. I believe that there is a someone for everyone out there, as much as many people are content without the so-called 'headaches' of having somebody else and just enjoy being able to have 'me-time' all the time.
If you haven't been blessed with a partner yet, you're blessed with plenty moments to appreciate, and get yourself ready for that day when Mr or Miss Compatibility walks through your door.



'Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight' ~ Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)


Never give up or lose faith...the time will come...there is a time for all things in life that must and will be..


Count your blessings!!


Monday, 23 July 2012

Precious years, how fast they go...


Time is such a priceless asset these days and to many there's simply never enough of it to complete that which we must, want to or need to. Life has become seemingly so fast paced that it almost always seems that we're racing against time to get things done.
It's when we remember someone dear that we've lost in our lives that we realise just how precious time is, and how those years gone by, as long as they may be, seem like only just yesterday.
Everyday becomes so priceless, yet somehow we forget because we are so caught up in our rat-race world of monotony and making a living...we take life for granted.

We need to value the time we have NOW, because this is the time in years to come that we would look back on and probably have woulda's, coulda's or shoulda's ... and there's simply no time for that.





Leisure

What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.
No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows.
No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.
No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.
No time to turn at Beauty's glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance.
No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.
A poor life this if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.


                                                                William Henry Davies



May time be always on your side, through all the rush and demands of life...and don't let life pass you by in the midst of all it's ride!!

Hold dear to those near and loved, and make every moment count.















Wednesday, 20 June 2012

End of a chapter, start of a new journey....


Thankyou, and goodbye LONDON!
Alas, the time has come to say goodbye to this amazing and unforgettable city with some of the most beautiful and incredible people I will never forget.

It has been a journey of great times, happiness, chartered memories and unforgettable moments. Life can surprise when you least expect it, and when it does, somehow you just know you're ready.
Change is almost always a good thing, it's how you embrace it and plan to face the challenges that come your way that make you strong and prepare you.

This has been an incredibly awesome journey for me, and it only gets better!










Whatever journey ahead awaits you, may your path be filled with enlightenment, happiness, joy, peace and an abundance of love, always...


Though you may travel the world to find the beautiful, you must have it within you or you will find it not.- Ralph Waldo Emerson



May the road rise up to meet you, may the wind be ever at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face and the rain fall softly on your fields. And until we meet again, May God hold you in the hollow of his hand.

XOXO



Wednesday, 6 June 2012

Everyday is a blessing

When you wake up in the morning whether the sun is shining or not, there's always a reason to give thanks for another day, and most especially for life. Some people are most definitely not 'morning people' as they would rightly admit....and misery loves company as they try to suck out every drop of joy and happiness that could possibly be in their presence...C'est la vie...let them be.

People mostly realise just how precious everyday is when they lose someone close and dear to them, or when time has selfishly shortened their time on earth. Life has new meaning. What was once a mountain challenge in one's life suddenly becomes smaller than a mole hill. Priorities in life change, and love encompasses everything you do.

Be thankful for your life, and don't take a moment for granted.

May there be love, light and joy in all you do, and in all those hearts that you touch!





Have no regrets, this is as good as it gets.... Don't expect more or less, just go out and give it your best...
Nobody and nothing can stand in  your way....


You've got what it takes to win....no climb is too high!


Today is YOUR day!!


God's blessings be with you always.






Wednesday, 16 May 2012

Moving on...

London....



London, a city of cultural diversity, music, theatres, busking, walks along the rivers, and a timeless romance, and the city where you see more foreigners than the very English themselves...not forgetting the packed red double decker buses and the sometimes sardine-packed underground tubes during peak hour travel...and the orderly fashion of commuters travelling the escalators as though they were trained ants, with almost every second commuter sitting flipping through the Metro in the morning and reading through the Daily Mail in the afternoon, if they're not engrossed in a novel or Sudoku, or busy eyeing out the next person's attire, or simply the opposite sex...

A city where almost every pub around lunch time is never deprived of beer thirsty guzzlers.
...where the sunshine is like GOLD, and the heat on your skin is like a once in a lifetime treat, so much so that you rush out to the nearest park, strip off to the bare essentials to cash in on that quick tan...just to bask in that glorious sun as though you were lying on a sunny seaside resort (one can dream :) ).
You can appreciate the seasons in all its glory and fulness just like you hear about it when you're a kid....the snowfall in the winter, the beautiful and colourful flowers at spring time, the fabulous sun and heat (ok, so maybe a week or two worth of actual summer), and the brilliant brown golden colours during fall.

One is never short of any ethnic cuisine that one may desire, with Indian restaurants favouring the public tastebuds having its synonmous accompaniment with that quenchful lager, especially at one minute past twenty three hundred hours...











A city where indelible memories are made and the great few that imprint on your heart, will always house a special place...


It's a good GOOD LIFE!!

Live your dreams!!


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